Working Parents… I See You!

I am a working mom, like so many of you out there. I know your struggles, I see you. I see you waking up earlier than you need to to make sure your ready for your day and that everything for your kids is in order. I see you getting everyone in the car trying to just be on time as one adorable little face looks up at you and needs to go potty. I see you struggling to call in sick yet another day because someone else in the house is sick and needs to be taken care of. I see you holding back guilt as your children tell you they wish you could stay home with them. I see you and I know your struggles.

I have a 4 and 2 year old. And while I have the luxury of having my parents watch them while I go to work it still hurts. I still have the mom guilt as I try and race out the door with them when all they want is time to sit and read a book. It isn’t easy. My day starts super early and even though I try my best to be organized my mornings are still chaos. We are usually rushing and someone usually ends up crying. They want more juice, they want to stay home, but you keep going because you have a full day of work ahead. You tell them not to cry that you will all have time together at night and inside part of you breaks because you want to cry and stay with them.

My job is great, don’t get me wrong I love it. I teach kindergarten reading. It is a pleasure almost everyday. The part I struggle most with is realizing I spend more time with other peoples children than I do my own, and it stings. By the time I get home I’m exhausted. I pick up my kids after work and we drive home. From the point we are home until bed we are on the move. Dinner needs to be cooked, homework needs to be done, someone has a gym class, I try and go to the gym, we try and spend quality time together. The tasks never really end and while I love my job I yearn for days where we can just be home and be together.

I recently had a discussion with some friends who do not have kids. We are a big fitness family. I go to CrossFit and my husband does Jiu Jistu. Our children, though young, have been in these gyms and environments since really before they born. As we had children our time for ourselves drastically decreased, as expected. We were at the gym less and our friends didn’t seem to understand the struggles of being working parents. The day to day tasks of being a working mom are exhausting. Your job is never done. There are so many times I put my boys to bed and just sit down and think OK I can relax and then remember all the things that still have to get done. Clothes need to be put out for the next day, laundry needs to be folded, dishwasher emptied and then reloaded from dinner, lunches and meals for the next day need to be organized, seriously it doesn’t end. And what many people without kids forget is the ability to just get up and do something when you wish. I recently had someone tell me I was making excuses for not coming to the gym because I had kids. I love when people judge working parents. Who exactly is going to watch our kids for us to just get up and go to the gym whenever we wish??? I’m going to save the rest of this thought for a new post. lol

So to all the moms, and dads, out there, struggling each day to better yourselves all while running your family and your jobs, I SEE YOU. Be kind to yourself. You are doing the best you can.